We aren’t meant to be perfect and make no mistakes. As humans, we are just expected to be better than what we were yesterday.
In that context, understand that you’re making a lot of mistakes in your life at present. BUT that’s okay. We all do!
The key here is to get aware of them and then take proactive measures to improve.
Now, of course, self-awareness isn’t something that comes easy. This makes the “improvement” part quite difficult. After all, if you don’t know what needs to be improved, you won’t improve.
So, to help you with that, here are seven things you’re doing wrong in your life right now that demands to be fixed if you want to achieve more and be happier:
1. Defining “success” per others’ definition
Success is subjective. Yes!! It means different thing to different people.
Sadly, what many people do today is universalize it with one definition, which is lots of money.
If you’re chasing the same definition, you’re wrong.
Define your own meaning of success. It could be money. But there are also many other things, like spending more time with family, traveling, achieving location-independence, becoming a master meditator, and more.
Don’t follow the meaning of success defined by others. It won’t lead you to happiness.
2. Caring about everyone’s opinions
This is the single biggest mistake the majority of the people is making; caring too much about others’ opinions. If you’re one of them, please stop.
Understand that nobody cares. How you dress, how you look, how you talk, how many Instagram followers you have – nobody cares. People would think about it for a minute or two and then they would forget.
Everyone has their own insecurities and worries to think about.
Moreover, what they think about you, doesn’t really matter.
Are you really going to spend the rest of your life pandering to what others think of you?
Are you really not going to do things that you want and be the person that you really are because you are worried about others’ opinions?
Stop caring about others’ opinions. If not, you will always be unhappy.
3. Emotionally connecting with the wrong person
Not everyone who comes into our lives is here to stay. Despite their promises, many will leave.
To save yourself from all the heartaches and miseries, it’s important to be selective and thoughtful about who you emotionally connect with.
This means you must refrain yourself from getting emotionally involved with others.
Draw a line for yourself and do not cross that line unless you’re sure that the person is here to stay. Else, you will end up getting hurt. And nobody wants to be in that position no matter how much we glorify “experience”.
4. Consuming negative media
Today, media is playing a bigger role in the kind of person one is becoming.
What you see on TV, what you read on Twitter, what you watch on YouTube – all these have a significant effect on our subconscious.
In short period, this effect isn’t noticeable. But in the long run, it shows its true self in face of how you act, what you think, how you treat others and the kind of personality you have.
If you’re consuming negative media every day, you’re doing yourself a big disservice. You’re shaping yourself into a pessimist who thrives on hate, complains, and excuses. You’re building for yourself a life where you will always be unhappy.
Heed to the kind of media you’re exposed to every day. And then make changes.
5. Having friends who are bad for you
The kind of people you hang out with the most influence the kind of person you become.
If you’re spending time with the winners, you are more likely to become a winner yourself.
If you’re spending time with complainers, you are more likely to become a complainer.
So, if you have friends who have a negative influence on you, who don’t make you feel good, it’s incredibly important that you get them out of your life.
Sadly, that’s not what the majority of the people do. Most of them even fail to recognize bad friends in life. And those who do identify them, they never courage-up to distance self from that relationship.
But, in the end, the fact remains the same… If you surround yourself with bad friends, it will come at the cost of your happiness and success.
Recommended Read: How To Get Rid of Toxic People From Your Life?
6. Acting with a short-term approach
Life is long. Even if you’re 50 years old right now, you have about 40 full years in your hand.
There’s no reason for you to want success tomorrow. There’s no reason for you to have all your dreams come true tomorrow.
One, because that’s not possible. And second, you don’t need all the magic to happen “quickly”. You have enough time with you.
The moment you realize this simple fact is the moment you will be able to navigate your life in the right direction with no worries about “I don’t have time”. You will be able to take necessary risks, knowing well that you have all the time in the world.
Remember, life is a long-term goal. All good things take time.
So, do not rush towards everything. You will only end up tired, overwhelmed and demotivated. Work with a long-term approach. Treat time as your asset.
7. Not working hard enough
You love dreaming big. We all do. But are you working hard enough to make that dream a reality?
If you answer that with all honesty, the answer would likely be a “no”.
Most of the people aren’t working hard enough. And this is something they will regret in the future when they realize that the only thing that was between the life they lived and the life they wanted to live was hard work.
Every great thing in life, every success, they demand hard work. If you aren’t ready to put in all your efforts, you will never win. This equation is quite simple!
These are seven things you’re likely doing wrong in your life.
No matter the kind of life you wish for, it would require you to overcome these “wrongs” and improve yourself into a better version.
Start taking action today and stride towards a better life.